Thursday, December 6, 2007

The Dating Scene

It's hard to tell sometimes without looking back at all my old entries which parts of my life I haven't yet shared with you through my blog. I do know that dating is one of those areas in which I have a difficult time writing about and have therefore neglected in blogging. My mother signed me up for one of those online dating sites a while back and as of lately I have been taking advantage of that "gift". I hadn't really noticed that I've been single for this long until the holidays crept up on me, and I actually looked at the calendar. I suppose it's a good thing that I was able to be distracted by dealing with my own life for a while, but I'm ready to get back into the dating scene. It's been almost a year since I went on a first date, so I was quite nervous not to mention the whole stigma that lies with online dating in itself, but really where am I supposed to meet a guy around here? I know what you're thinking... I'm in the Army, so I must be surrounded by guys. That is true, BUT they're all married! In Army time I am SOOOO an old maid already. Most Soldiers are married with two and a half kids before they're even old enough to drink. That's not an exaggeration. I also can't date anyone that out-ranks me or anyone that I out-rank myself. Those two things alone eliminate everyone that I know already. It's a tough gig! The first few guys that sent me messages online were either married, or just wanted a "good time", or lived a million miles away, so didn't even bother responding. Then there were the guys that I began correspondence with that found out I wasn't exactly a girly-girl, so they stopped responding to me. Finally I discovered one who I actually met in real life, but I ended up paying for the dinner and movie only to have him sneak off to answer the phone while I overheard him explaining to his WIFE where he was. Sheesh! The last thing I want is an angry wife after me. The last date I went on was last week, and this time I was the bum. It was during the week, so I had planned to get off around a decent time so I could make myself look a little less Soldier-like. Of course I ended up staying super late instead. I didn't even have time to wash my hair or put make up on! I looked horrible. I gave him the wrong directions. I was late. I can't believe he asked me out again!


Estivalia said...

it's also common in here that soldiers marry young. One of my classmates came from an army family and right we graduated from highschool she married her soldier boyfriend. I though that was crazy!

I really wish you luck on your dating, just act natural and stuff. Here we don't really "date" so I'm not the best at giving advice in that area :P

vangie said...

You never stop amazing me. I love the ornaments you made. I feel like you do about the not wanting to sit around too long. I was overjoyed that you spent a whole week in Texas this past Thanksgiving. I can't wait until Christmas. I tried to decorate the dining room with Grandma's tree and "your strawberries" but I do not have your eye. I love you bunches.

And about the dating are perfect just the way you are. You don't have to be a "girly girl" you are, as I have told you before...impossible to label. You are so many things that you can't really be described without a big dictionary.


Debbie/StudioBeeCreations said...

Ok....not to sound like your mom....but, ditto on being YOU!....I gotta find you somebody like HamDaddy!.....PS....You've been tagged....check out my blog!

Leslie Miller said... luck! Hey, if you're not yourself, you wind up with the wrong guy anyway. Happy holidays!

Sandy said...

Best of luck to you in the dating thing---I gave up long ago! Sounds like mom has great advice, so I'll just point you to her!:)

Misc. Muse said...

somethings never change. When I was in Air Force, I had a friend who worked in records, if we wanted to know if the guy who asked us out we'd ask her to look him up- she offered. I never had anyone married ask me out - but a guy I worked with went out with girl I knew, he wasn't single I informed her, especially since his wife went to tech school with me.
What a rat.