Saturday, May 16, 2009

She's at it again...

Well, my sister once again decided to throw some punches my way via her blog. I wrote a REALLY, REALLY, REALLY long blog post a couple of days ago replying to it with an inclusion of the conversation that ensued prior to her eruption, but I left it in the drafts folder. I'm still undecided about publishing it though I did post a comment on her blog. She's said and done VERY painful things to me over the years, so in my fury I'd definitely say I aired out some stinky laundry. I've always appreciated the pure honesty of living a life through a blog. There's no editing who reads it. It's scary and freeing at the same time. I've never censored or deleted my comments (other than advertisements & spam). I even left up the comments on THIS post telling me to "Go to hell baby killer" shortly after I deployed. Click HERE to go on over to my sister's post. I'd like to know what you think.

19 comments:

Marie said...

WOW. I don't know if you know (can't remember if it has come up) but I'm a member of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints (Mormon - as your sister says she is). I am so grateful that I understand just what my Savior has done for me, and everyone, and that it is His example I should follow. Wouldn't it be great if everyone followed Him and His example?

I'm sorry that you are hurting. I know that if my sister said anything like that I would have a hard time forgiving, much less forgetting. You know your sister the best though, and you know her imperfections. I hope that the two of you can work through this. Your relationship will last forever, and sometimes it's best to remember that when we say things to others - especially publicly for all to see.

You are an AMAZING person, Laura. You have been through many trials, you have accomplished so much, and sacrificed even more. I have nothing but respect for you and thank you for all you do to serve us and daily live in a situation where you might have to offer up the greatest sacrifice anyone can make - your own life - in the work of preserving freedom and democracy in our country and around the world. By virtue of your profession you could be asked to give all, and like our Saviour, that is the most amazing gift anyone can give to someone else. May that never be forgotten of our Soldiers, Airmen, Sailors, and Marines. They do their jobs and give their lives, forever changing those of their family and friends that love them, that we might all live free. Thank you, from someone who understands your profession as others evidently don't.

Mamma has spoken said...

Sorry but I feel like I've came in at the middle of the disagreement with your sister without knowing any background of what caused the disagreement. The statement that stood out was one that she claimed you felt forgotten. I don't personally know you, but I was worried about you this past month due to you not posting. Families can suck, you can wish them away, but in the end they are your family. Let some time and distance work on the situation and see what happens from there. Oh and the person who was so rude to you on the previous blog should be happy that you are there and not the previous ruling talaband....

Debbie/StudioBeeCreations said...

#1....Who needs a wedding in Texas anyhoo?....how about we find you & Vince a sweet chapel here in Nashville?
#2....I hope they are not taking out their frustrations with you on our LillyBelle!
#3.....I love you....and I am sooooooooo very proud of you!
#4.....My heart is breaking for you.
always....your BFF

Jen said...

Wanted to let you know that we might not be family but I dont forget you I worry about you over there. I say a little prayer for you every night that you are safe and will come home soon. Im glad you blogged because I started getting worried something had happened. Keep safe, hope to hear from you soon. Just remember those of us who read your blog faithfully love you and are very proud of you. :)

Anonymous said...

Larua,
This is just incredable photos. I do hope you can keep them all. Remember you have a space on the JMP server if you ever need it.

I love you,
Dad

Anonymous said...

We didn't hear from you for so long, I was getting worried. Grams, Poppie, Lisa, Mark, Sam, Chelsea, Jan and I are 110% proud of you and LOVE you with all our hearts. You are not, nor could you ever be forgotten. As you Dad it make me feel so helpless to not be able to run over and hold you when you are hurting, when you are laughing, when you are just simply near.

You are never alone,
Dad

rita said...

Hi there!
I have been following your blog for a while now...first because you are a stamper but then it was because you are in the military. I'm was a military wife, for 23 years. I know how hard military life is. Anyway,,,just wanted you to know...that you are NOT forgotten.. I check everyday for a post from you. I don't know you or your family but I can't believe that your sister could say such awful things to you...especially when you are over there. My advice is to just let it go...yes, it hurts but you know what? You are better than that. You know what's right and what's wrong...Be the better person...and keep posting. We worry about you when you are gone so long...and send more pics!

Estivalia said...

You're not forgotten, I think of you everyday :) Wondering if you have drawed or painted or done anything "fun" in that country. I'm sorry I can't send you a card, because I'm not on the U.S. :(

Anyway, I hope things get better with your sister. I am the big sis too and it's a pain, because younger sister seems to be almost "allowed" to be annoying. Sigh. Anyway. take care!

Anonymous said...

We choose our friends, thank goodness, but we can't choose our family. Sometimes you just have to close that door.

Boopyscreet said...

Hey Laura,

You are not forgotten! I read your blog all the time and think that you are an incredibly brave, talented woman! Perhaps your sister ought to learn how to spell "business" and "car" before she finishes her degree and/or drives anywhere!

Stay safe, we think of you all there and pray for you (my hubby is Australian Army).

Hugs

Renee

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You know who said...

Wow is all I can say. you have serious issues and I have always been fair to you and always listen. Must you twist words and meanings to your will I mean what the hell. We all know it was you who left the anonymous post. Why is all I can say. We stay here because we are asked to stay here. I am sorry that you feel so left out but that is far from our intentions. I am just in awe at you and what you have said and done. Has your sister ever made mistakes? yes, but so have you and every one else. If it is your intention to get a rise you did congradulations. I would like to thank you for supporting our wedding so much, not to mention the reception you promised you would heelp with but did not. Stop being so pety and grow up. I pray for you and that you may one day come to realize you are a special person in your own way and stop acting like a child stomping your feet. If it bothers you so much we are here with your mom then tell us and we can talk about it even move out.

To every one else that has commented just know their are two sides to every story and as much fun as it is to be biasd just realize these two sisters have been fighting for a very long time and because of stupid stuff like this they always will.

Laura you think you are a hero but carrying notes from one officers tent to the next is hardly heroic its called being a failure. Any Army person knows that your job and the mail person are the 2 jobs they out the worst soldiers. Be proud and lye hard because in the end I guess that is all you have is your "storys".

Anonymous said...

Where does a mother begin. Generally I prefer my messages to you to be private but I would like your friends and kind readers to know that not a moment in the day goes by that I don't think of you. As your birthday comes closer and closer I miss you more and more. The strife between you and your sister is painful to all who love you both so very much. I wish of all wishes that you two could be friends. She very clearly is in pain as are you. Unfortunately airing the dirty laundry in a public domain opens all parties to public opinion. I have seen, heard, watched, and cried to the verbal assaults coming from both camps. I beg for peace. I love you both more than you can image....until the day you are parents.

All my love forever, MOM

Vince said...

Dear You Know Who,

My comments will always be posted under my name. Laura is a medic not a mail clerk or admin assistant. Not only is she serving with honor in the military, I also know that she is putting the needs of others above her own. And it is also clear that she does not and will not allow any personal discomforts or false ailments stop her from deploying. Tell me something. Have you noticed the knots on the Good Conduct Medal in the awards photo? I am sure that you are way too young to have served that many years. Fronting false awards especially during a time of conflict is appalling. And on a last note, watch who you are calling a failure. Throwing stones in a glass house is not a very smart move.

Anonymous said...

I have been estranged from my only younger sister for many many years, and this is an example why I chose to be estranged from her. Laura, you're life will be more peaceful if you chose to do the same. Not all sisters get along and can live happily ever after. When you finally can accept that fact, you will be much happier. I certainly am happier without all of her drama drowning my happiness!

Miss Liz said...

Wow, Laura I cannot believe how crazy this is. Don't let the haters bring you down and you have every right to be be proud of what you do. You're an awesome strong person!

Judi said...

Laura,
So much has been said already. Many of my thoughts have been expressed by others. I think of you daily, worry about you when posts are far between, pray for your safety, thank God for you and your fellow soldiers. You are not forgotten - far from it. It is true: We choose our friends, but we can't choose our family. Sometimes it is better to step away for some time. Just remember, you have plenty of people who care for and love you.

Sheri said...

Laura,
I have been following your blog for some time now. As a Army vet, medic and stamper, I felt we have common ground. I read not only the post you linked to on your sister's blog, but I went through her entire blog. I wanted to try to get a feel for her character. I think I did, but it is not my place to judge. I agree with the people here who have suggested time and/or breaking off the relationship. At least for a while.

Being in the military tends to mature most people. Having things "handed" to you hampers that process. But most people do mature sooner or later. There may be hope for reconciliation in the future. Prayer works wonders.

The comment from your BIL about your MOS really irked me. Thank you Vince for responding to that. Even if you were a mail clerk, supply clerk, or 71L - we all have our place in the military and it will not function without everyone! We are all of equal importance, just as we are in the Body of Christ!

Not even knowing you in person, I love you still. You are my sister in arms, my sister in Christ,
Sheri in CO

Anonymous said...

(To: you know who said) and I know who said it. Really you want to sit there and tell Laura that she is a failure when my tax dollars are paying your ass to sit at your mother-in-laws house and play computer games. I like how ya'll continue to through shit at Laura because ya'll are jealous of her accomplishments. Who needs to stop being so "petty and grow up"? And no one twisted words Laura merely restated what was said and gave her rebuttal. Do you really believe you can say that you pray for someone when you bash them? Way to make yourself look so godly.